Jill Childre 4 Roadblocks to Investing in Yourself
Roadblocks. We all have them. They stop us from getting, doing or having what we really want.
-I want to eat better, but I don’t have the money to buy better food.
-I want to exercise, but I don’t have the time.
-I want to get my hair done because it makes me feel confident, but I feel selfish.
-I need a weekly date night with my husband, but I feel guilty for taking the time away from the kids.
-I want more “me" time, but I feel selfish. Someone would have to pick up my slack.
GUILT. TIME. OVERWHELM. MONEY.
I’ve used every excuse in the book. "I don't know where to start," “It’s selfish of me,” “It's too much money," “Will it really pay off?” You’re feeling me. You’ve had these thoughts too.
Each one of these is mental roadblock that requires a shift in mindset. And lucky you, mindset shifts are kind of my thing. So, if you really want to stay where you are, quit reading now. Otherwise, come along and let’s move forward together through the land of mental roadblocks.
GUILT: Girl, I don’t even have to know who you are to know you are worth it. You are important, your needs are important, you mental health is important, your physical well being is important, your biggest goals and dreams are important. Do not feel guilty for any of these needs. And yes, girl, it’s okay to have your own set of unique needs. Ignoring your needs because of guilt creates the potential for long term problems including feeling more empty than you already might. Repeat after me: I matter. I am worth it.
Side note: Whats good for you is also good for your family. When you feel worthy and when your needs are met, your family will take note. Your renewed confidence in yourself will shine through in ways you never imagined.
TIME: I didn’t have time. I dont have time. Tomatoes. Toe-MAH-toes. Are you ready to hear some not so sugar coated thoughts about time? If it’s really important, you'll make the time. It may take waking up earlier or staying up later. It might take creating new routines and habits. It might mean you surf the 'gram for 30 minutes less or skip your nightly shows. It might mean you have to temporarily take something off your plate.
You will make the time for the things are important to you.
And often, we have a false thinking that what we want to do will take more time that it actually does. But basically, how much do you really want what you say you want? Make the room, make the time, and create the margin.
OVERWHELM: Oh my, have I let this one bog me down! Overwhelm paralyzes me. I don’t where to start. I don’t know how to start, so I don’t start at all. Sound familiar?
Start by emptying out all your mental obstacles...everything that makes you think you can’t, start there. You’ll be surprised by what you write down when you get really honest with yourself. After you acknowledge your mental roadblocks, give yourself some positive affirmations. Heck, be weird and say them aloud. This is your inner monologue and it turns out 75% of people do this, so you’re actually in good company.
Next, take that big, overwhelming thing and break it down. Reverse engineer the course from point A to B, step by step. Focus on taking the first small step, then the next and the next until you’re on on your way.
And if you’re still stuck, find someone who’s doing or done what you want to do and grab their coattails. No one needs to reinvent the wheel and trying to do so can prevent you from starting and finishing the task at hand.
MONEY: It’s too much money. Put your big girl panties on again because this mental roadblock really gets me going. If we’re speaking honestly, I’m going to tell you it’s mostly always about priorities and instant gratification and less about the money. Hear me out.
